Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. – Matthew 5:9
“So, I got this crazy idea”, is usually how most of my projects have started out. They are usually followed up by, “Oh, you can’t do that Kim. It won’t work.” which then of course, THEY DO!
So this, I’ve learned has become the formula for when God is asking me to do something.
It starts off as an idea I think is absolutely not possible, and not only can’t see how it’s going to work; I don’t want to be the one doing it.
“No. No. No. God, what are you going to make me do? ” He pushes me outside my comfort zone, every. single. time. It sucks.
I do not want to host an ice cream social for the community. I do not want to knock on all my neighbors doors, to invite them to a block party. There is no possible way I can collect enough plastic bags and then make sleeping mats for the homeless, that would be enough to serve in any significant way.
All of which are done in the spirit of loving God and loving others (Mark 12:30-31), being a light to the world (Matthew 5:14), and making disciples (Matthew 28:13).
But it’s all about trust, right? Having faith.
Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. – James 1:22
Oh my gosh, Lord, what are you going to make me do now?
He doesn’t always give me the whole plan of how I’m going to pull it off, but he usually always gives me the excitement that comes with it before, rather than after. I see his vision. And I get so excited!
Then, in my excitement, I announce my crazy idea, and time and time again, it is followed up by people telling me it won’t work, or I can’t pull it off, or I’m crazy.
Oh, I know!
They’re not being mean, or unsupportive, they just know me really well. And they’re right! I can’t do any of these crazy ideas. But with God, I KNOW, I can (Matthew 19:26).
He gave me a vision. I can’t see how I will get there, but I can see what it looks like in the end. And I usually have the best time ever!
So, with that…
I GOT A CRAZY IDEA!
How do I know? Well, I’m terrified, for one, and I’ve already heard, “It’s a great idea, Kim. I just don’t know how it’s gonna work. People aren’t going to want to come. Most will not be ready for it.”
I can’t tell you how I got this idea. I can’t really remember when it started to grow, but I know with all my heart it’s something worthy and honoring to God. I can’t, not try.
When I went back to college to earn my degree in Christian Studies, people asked what I was going to do after I graduated. I told them really I had no idea. I was ok with it, because I knew God had a plan but if he had revealed it to me at the time, it would have completely freak me out.
We’ll guess what? I think this may be it!
We are The Peacemakers.
It’s working with moms who have had a child or children with an ex-partner who remarried, and now has another woman who is involved with her child’s life; the step-mom.
Yes, I’m aware that divorce is not biblical. But it is, however something very prevalent in today’s Christian churches. So why instead of throwing the baby out with the bath water, and not talking about this population of parents, as if it is taboo; why not see how we can bring them together in unity, that is God honoring, and show the world the power of Christ’s forgiveness, compassion and love, for the sake of their children?
The goal is to be able to put aside difference, FOR THE CHILDREN. It’s not to become best friends. It’s not to restart a relationship with an ex. But it is to be able to come together to co-parent so their children continue to feel safe, secure and loved by both sets of parents.
Many times, most of the time, probably all of the time, the step mom /ex wife relationship is sabotaged from the beginning because of one thing…the ex.
They may be completely lovely people but already don’t like each other. There is a barrier that immediately goes up. They are the enemy.
They don’t even know each other, and yet they share two very important things that should bring them together, instead of pull them apart; the children, and a relationship with their Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
They may not go to the same church, but they may go to a church somewhere. So why then, can’t they work through this, if they claim to be followers of Christ?
It is almost an “ok” thing, to not have a relationship or even to have a bad relationship with an ex and ex’ wife. It is understood. It accepted. It is never talked about at church. It is never addressed, but yet ex-wives and step moms go to church every single week.
For whatever reason, a traditional single family unit is no longer a possibility, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try for the next best thing.
Therefore, I propose we come together for the best interest of the children.
The children, who by the way, are God’s children. Why would he not want this?
So with that, I’ve met with my pastor, and I’ve been interviewing friends; some of which who share children, and some who have counseled moms who do. And I’ve been collecting a lot of great ideas as to what THIS could actually look like.
My next step is to hit my Bible. I know, everything I need to know is already in there. My job is to drive in and find it.
I’m the lucky one. I get a double blessing. Not only in the end, I will be brining people closer to Christ, in the process I get to be closer to him as well! How exciting is that!
However, like any of my crazy ideas, I go into it with a lot of fear and hesitation.
After one of my interviews, I walked to my car and thought to myself, “Why are you doing this? It’s not going to work.”
What if both moms are not Christian? What if one or both are too wounded to focus on the children? What if the step mom is the “other” woman?
But as quickly as my doubts came, I heard a voice inside me say, “They said the same thing about Girls’ Club”.
And like THAT, my fear went away.
This is going to happen. I don’t know how this is going to happen, I don’t know when this is going to happen, but I know this is going to happen.
I have faith in a God who gives crazy ideas, so that the rest of the world can watch and wonder, what is that?
All for his glory, we will show the world.
And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had. – Acts 2:44